"You truly can reach a state in which you never have any more stress, tension, or problems for the rest of your life. You just have to realize that life is giving you a gift, and that gift is the flow of events that takes place between your birth and your death. These events are exciting, challenging, and create tremendous growth. To comfortably handle this flow of life, your heart and mind must be open and expansive enough to encompass reality. The only reason they’re not is because you resist. Learn to stop resisting reality, and what used to look like stressful problems will begin to look like the stepping-stones of your spiritual journey."
Singer, Michael (2007-10-03). The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself (p. 156). New Harbinger Publications, Inc.. Kindle Edition.
I know that I have this particular picture on this site already. It is such a big influence on my life at the moment that it might pop up again later. The truth is, that of all the books on spiritual growth that I have read, this one has done more to move me along than all the rest combined. I know this is not going to be the case for everyone, as I think it all depends on where you are in your growth that determines the impact of a teaching on your life.
This book hit me at a time when I had great need of it. I have been struggling with some stuff that entered my life and has set me on a path of trying to understand what happened. I was able to let the majority of the crap go, but just was fighting and struggling with what is, and in the words of Byron Katie, "When you struggle with what is you suffer." That was exactly where I was. I did "The Work", and got myself into a place where I was content with what is. I rearranged my thinking, and rose to a much higher level of "Enlightenment." I was content most of the time.
This book just gave me the tools to deal with those situations that cause the daily stresses and tensions of the day. How to recognize when something was causing me stress, and how to deal with it to assure the best outcome for all considered.
Relax and let go of the resistance. Let it move past without settling in. Don't analyze it, or give it any thought other than release. When we spend time thinking about it even in analysis of it, we give it life. I will even find myself sitting or stepping back in these situations. I apparently needs some physical action to accomplish a wholly mental action. Whatever it takes, I let it just pass right before me without grabbing hold of any of the sticky parts. Once you accomplish this, you are free to deal with what is "REALLY" there. Many times I have realized that the only problem that had existed was my reaction to what was said or done. There was nothing left to deal with once I let it pass. Sometimes there is something there, but it is easier to deal with once my ego reaction was gone.
Stay in the now, stay real, and let the crap pass without letting it take residence in your mind. Deal with what is really there once you have let the reaction pass. The more you do this now, the less often you will need to do it along your path as it will become second nature to let the crap pass.
I am calmness
I am peace
I am health
I am wellness
I am that I am
Namaste